June 6, 2024:

It's good I can support couples.

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June 25, 2024:
Please give me some pardons.
Apart from the soothing picture above, what follows is a serious subject.

Support

Modes of behavior Mistpar had should urge some time in inquiry. All of which happened before his extended family seen above.
For instance, when his friends died he sought my friendship for help as if I could cure it in some way. Many reasons I said and listed in the past, because of its peculiar distinction I repeatedly bring up :

He has plenty of close treasured friends, family, and spouse ready to appease most or fully his emotional wounds;
Personally, I am a complete stranger to Mistpar and I'm not a part of his life;
He hasn't earned a friendship with the stranger (me) to ask and obligate him with the burden of immeasurable favors or requests;
An unlimited number of people support him worldwide, but by his lingering thirst for more this ample extent of helping support still falls short from quenching his sympathetic needs.

I don't understand. Also Sapphy had joined this belief that I can help him as if I was a qualified doctor of medicine. Because Sapphy and her family had pressured me, with the penalty of dislike if I did not, into a relationship with him thinking I can somehow heal his grief.
I'm sorry, I'm not the answer.

My theory about pampering someone when everything he demands is already there in front of him, is that too much supply will distract his attention onto the pampering instead of using the medicine he/she is already provided. To have medicine but not use it, is the same as not having medicine at all.
A metaphorical example is, if you want to have good recreation it's like having 50 soccer balls when you only need 1. If you give him another 20 soccer balls, it's only a distraction from plainly playing with a single soccer ball.
I heard Mistpar is mentally ill which only a doctor can help. Perhaps, he spontaneously sends out requests in desperation for extra help probably he doesn't need. If he's already in ample and plenty supply, should I listen to his desperation? If I answer to desperation when there isn't a need, wouldn't the person rely on being desperate?
Generally, we are required to help those who have a lack of help and resources. In this case, it's not true.
Like grounding teenagers as a penalty, sometimes love is about withholding.
Therefore, in the occasions of his friend's passing he wishes to acquire friendships he doesn't need, the supply over the brink might make his condition worse. I would suggest if you care about him, without extra pampering, allow all his core friends, support, encouragement for help do the job they are fully capable of doing.

Update: 5am pdt - Added 2 sentences.