patches

For any recent lady or guy;

( Dama, do you have an open ear?
Hy. Good morning.
For a certain someone, I included you.)
Anyone who wishes to send glowing interest into my busy attention  and seeks to grab a hold on my participation;
Here are  three guiding notes.

A.
The consequence of my time has been occupied in months that have my attentive thoughts caught in resolving blocks.
These blocks promote a caution.  Hence, a worrisome air may somewhat float continuous in the environment. My  effort is to surmount  with a tranquil air that's worriless, and afterwards permit passage to free expression; to enhance our mutual communication.
This foremost aim must be completed, and is the reason for my absence. Please be patient.  I think it will be okay.
Following, it will automatically free my ample  time to enhance relationships. A lot of lengthy pauses happened in passing months. So I missed the big goal of finishing in December.

Dama,  my absence is because the important work stays unfinished. The progress is abnormally  slow.  When it's completed by next month, I hope  our communication will be more carefree.

B. In many previous years I endured unkind treatment.   Past experience verified, whenever  a girl needed results instantly from a guy  she would  use intentional heartbreak as a method to force my attention, care, and actions for us to meet.  This game at forcing and rushing,  had the adverse effect of hindering and stopping progress for years.    In trusting, right moves and less worry can create speedier results.

General equation for any girl is:
* A lady gives  love = a lady gets love. 
This equation is right.
If there's compatibility,  when personal conditions of life are  good, and right opportunity is present; the attraction naturally flows and actions follow. To attract is to give.

Method of heartbreak for a girl is:
* A lady gives hurt =  a lady gets love.  
This equation is pseudo-right.
I endured this for some years.  For all ladies and gentlemen is using pain to get love a true and sincere way ?
There is a better way than to hurt a person for attention or love.

When from this plan of action consisting of mainly heartbreak from a girl,  makes me want to never return.This  bitter taste deters, instead of attracting me.    It impresses the feeling to normally seek refuge,  For 2025, I've been cautiously  standing at a distance from any lady.

To captivate my wandering eyes, the only 2 responses necessary are to show genuine feelings, and a willingness to date.

Dama, the last sight I remember of you was no genuine and clear  response of affection.   Is there any inspiration to return?

C.
From a previous girl, when these series of hurt in countermoves were caught in my bearing, a sickness had accumulated. When my health declined it affected me with uncontrollable symptoms.  To manage them has been difficult.  My unhealthy inclination requires me to seek an escape into long absences for healing.  Sometimes  I worry that I may  endanger others to a small or significant amount. To be a vacancy in relationships are not due to uncaring, but rather are due to healing.
Dama, when I revive my health, and regain my vigor I will  wholeheartedly endeavor to uphold valuable relationships gladly. Last month relaxing for Christmas and New Year's took precedence over exerting for a goal.
I hope I didn't hurt one of your friends from my absence; as a  very bright gentleman. We can think of this.  No one avoids pretty ladies.  However, I've been avoiding pretty ladies as well as every person.   I unintentionally at this time avoid most.
When I rebuild health, I'll meet every friend who is willing.  I hope to participate with anyone of the friends in many sports.

Finally the 3 causes of my absence are:
A. completing work;
B. evasion from heartache,
C. sinking health.

Waiting

I try not to engage fully any new relationship.
For the duration of this month I will  alleviate 'A'.
Time has discovered a couple ladies I concern about  disagree with one another. In the meanwhile, I will treat each lady equally.  

On about August 13, 2025, I saw a girl, though I did not see her for 1 year. However, I've already dedicated myself to another girl,  so I didn't think about it too much when I wrote my goodbye on about August 14;  I already decided weeks ahead to be loyal to Dama for all 2025, and stated it there and started my goodbye on August 15.    To simply throw away a whole person, immediately after I established an emotional  connection is too cold. While absorbed by 'A' in 2025, this year of 2026 I dug out added pics and realized perhaps she cared for me more than I realized at my first impression in August 2025.

This month, a girl who gives care has more value than a girl who does not.  Driven by some heart, the goal renews.  It's to meet you.

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Posted: January 7, 2026, 10:30am PDT